Prompt 6 – Purpose: What’s your game?
You’ve developed a framework for making wise decisions. You’ve written your hero’s story. You’ve declared your integrity.
Now it’s time to use all of this for real.
Part 1: Becoming aware of your games
Let’s play with the idea of life as a game, made up of many smaller games. We’re all playing one big game together. Additionally, there are the internal games we play with ourselves and external games we play with groups of others.
Our internal games are based around stories we make up where we get to play the victim, the hero, the rescuer or the damsel in distress, the consummate insider or the perpetual outsider, the princess or the beggar. Most of us have become very skillful in these games, although not always conscious of them. We become the victim or hero in our own drama, with a series of characters playing all the roles we need to fulfill our part. Often times we think the games are real.
Our imagination plays a powerful way in which we see ourselves. And creates the relationships with have with others in our lives.
Our external games are sometimes extensions of internal games and sometimes the game we were placed into via our family histories or societal circumstances. James P. Carse wrote a fascinating book called “Finite and Infinite Games – A Vision of Life as Play and Possibility”. Read this summary of the key ideas in it. http://www.alamut.com/subj/artiface/games/infiniteGames.html.
Your role as a GameChanger is to change the game. And perhaps game the change. Both require playing the infinite game.
Reflect on two or three of the games you play internally and externally.
- What roles have you developed? Hero? Victim? Rescuer? Bystander?
- What are the rules and boundaries of the game you play and who controls them? Are you playing a finite game or an infinite game?
Part 2: Your hero’s mission continues
To be a GameChanger, you need to make conscious choices about the games you play, the games you create and the rules and boundaries of those games.
In Prompt 2, you wrote about your hero’s journey. Most of you wrote only about your journey so far, of the game you’ve already played. Let’s suppose that the challenge(s) you overcame so far were only the beginning of the story. This week’s task is to talk about the game you want to play now and into the future, how you wish to make change in the world. How does your narrative shift then? Watch this very short video of Joseph Campbell summing up this life philosophy and consider what it would mean to follow your bliss. (Optional: longer video here)
(Extra resource: here’s a fantastic step-by-step guide on finding your bliss for those of you still trying to articulate your purpose)
At this point, most personal development courses would ask you to write a mission statement to elucidate the purpose of your life. In GameChangers GO, we believe that questions are more powerful than statements.
I want to beg you, as much as I can, dear sir, to be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer. – Rainer Maria Rilke
Questions can provoke and engage you to think more creatively, more expansively. They suggest that your journey is not over and serve as guides for learning and growing into your purpose. A mission question should be succinct, powerful, and resonant. Examples:
- How can I help people learn and feel closer to their communities?
- How can I reduce suffering in those who are ill?
- What can I do to help others feel financially secure?
- Who needs me most?
Start thinking about what your mission question might be. Some guidelines. Mission questions:
- Are open-ended; that is, it typically will not have a single, final, and correct answer.
- Are provoking and engaging, often sparking new ideas and new ways of thinking
- Call for you to engage your Higher Self.
- Make you feel important, inspired, and challenged.
- Raise additional questions and spark further inquiry.
- Recur over time; that is, the question endures as part of your life narrative. They can and should be revisited again and again.
Part 3: Where money enters the game
Whether it’s profit-making or non-profit, paying your personal expenses or creating a larger organisation, modern life costs money and someone has to pay. If you want to change any game you need a relationship with money. http://sarahmccrum.com/what-would-money-like-to-tell-you/
Most of us have been brought up with the understanding that money is limited and is shared out amongst human beings. The consequence of that belief is that if one person gets richer another person must inevitably get poorer. But money is really just energy and therefore unlimited. While you need to be both smart and wise financially, the critical first step is to examine your attitude towards money.
Pretend you are in a relationship with money, like a relationship with a life partner.
- How would you describe your relationship?
- If you were in a lifelong relationship with money, what would you say to it?
- If money were in a lifelong relationship with you, what would it say to you?
- Consider the possibility that money really is energy and therefore unlimited. How would that change the way you played the game?
- Who is going to take responsibility for paying for your gamechanging?
- Do you want to pay for people to change the game with you (eg team, partners)?
- Do you want to pay for other people to change the game (eg donating to gamechanging causes, investing in gamechanging businesses)?
- What else do you want to pay for?
- Talk to the group with passion about the game you’re changing. Show them what you really care about. Explain why it needs to change, how much and what you want to do about it. Let them ask clarifying questions if they need to. 1 hour. Divide the time before you start and designate a person to timekeep, so everyone gets a chance.
- Work together as a group to clarify a mission question for each participant. A mission question should be succinct, powerful, and resonant. 1 hour
- Discuss your relationship with money. Talk about how your life will change if you truly understand that money is unlimited. Ask each other caring but challenging questions to reveal the beliefs and internal structures that currently define your relationship with money. Then shift those beliefs and structures to redefine the relationship. 1 hour.
Create and refine your mission question or personal equivalent. In other words, what’s your game? Say it in one good sentence.
Tell us the hero’s story of the game you propose to change. Use the medium that suits you best – story, writing, story board, video, audio etc. Make sure it’s clear who’s paying and how. Can you write a better story for yourself?
Create a post that can be shared publicly on the Gamechangers GO website.
Assignment due Tuesday, midnight.
In Slack or in a separate post, write one paragraph describing your relationship with money.
Then find one other GameChanger this week to discuss everything you wrote about this week.